Denver to NYC tonight!! Massachusetts on Tuesday!!
Hippie Dreamin: Anonymous asked: what would you say your perfect or dreamer lover consist of? what would she be like? look like? ect...
She is spiritual. She understands that there are things we will never understand, and she can appreciate other’s spiritual journeys. She gets excited for mushroom season, and full moon parties, and probably knows all sorts of useful trivia about the best pagan celebrations … but she can also keep in touch with family that might have a narrower view of spirituality.
She is giving. She would give away our last bit of food for a child, or maybe even a hungry dog. She also knows when she needs rest. She can say no, if no is the truth. She avoids over-extending herself.
She loves children and animals and nature. Maybe we would have children together, but even if we did not, kids and animals and nature would always be a big part of our life together.
She is confident. Confident in her own being, her skills, her looks, her options in life. She knows she can have anything in the world that she wants, but she wants me. She can motivate and inspire a group toward a greater common goal - whether that is planning a pot-luck with friends, or building a community garden.
She believes in the ideas of sustainability and community.
She is sexual. So many girls I’ve met are afraid to get kinky. Whatever happened to free-loving hippies! I like being passionate, even in public sometimes … I’d love to go to naked protests. I hope someday we welcome guests into our bed, and perhaps we even have occasional lovers on the side, but we are both 100% sure we are together and we work hard to make sure each other feels loved and appreciated. She is confident to ask for what she wants sexually, and is interested in pleasing me as well. She’d probably be turned-on to know that others were watching our passion for each other! I’m pretty sure she will either be very experienced with guys, or a virgin. I know that is extreme, but it makes sense. I’ll be delighted either way when I find her!
She is probably similar in build to me … thin by American standards; normal and healthy by the rest of the worlds standards. Skin color and hair color I’m not so picky about … I do have a soft spot for long hair and dreads. Part of the reason I love dreads is that it is my fantasy to find a girl who has also given up everything to find the real deal … Maybe tats, maybe not. An amazing smile for sure … A creative dresser … probably she makes most of her own clothes, or friends have made them for her. She prefers a bike over a car.
She’d be willing to travel with me often. And we’d likely meet with nothing, and travel until we find a place to build or join an open-minded loving, sharing and active community. Right now, my dream is to start an organic garden, maybe in the city, maybe in the country, or maybe we’d split our time between both. It is possible that she or I already have some ideas in mind, but we’d work it out until we were both 100% happy.
She is probably voluntarily poor - and would be willing to be that way forever if the choice was between being rich or being in love. We would inspire each other to be more creative and I’m pretty certain we will eat amazing food and live in a breath-taking one-of-a-kind home all of our days. She would not nag, but would not hesitate to let me know if I was not living up to my potential. She knows I can quit smoking and drinking Coke.
She would read out loud to me. And I’d read to her. We’d cook amazing, healthy food together daily. She would write me notes and hide them in random places. She may already be a musician … she probably has the sweetest voice I’ve ever heard. Maybe we’ll learn to play music together.
She is probably slightly more extroverted than me - but I’m not a quiet shy background guy - she is just probably slightly louder and more boisterous than me. Others know her genuine laugh, and it always lightens the mood.She has close girlfriends and guyfriends. People who mean the world to her, and who’s counsel she seeks when making important decisions.
She is not a big TV or pop culture addict. She could enjoy a good movie now and then, but she is definitely not addicted to America’s Next Top Model or Jersey Shore.
Most of all, she is patient. She knows that as she stands with me, and starts to dream together with me, we can together do anything, and go anywhere!
Yakima to Seattle to Denver tomorrow … it is gonna be a long day! I’m excited to chill in Denver for a while … see some good friends and finish out the winter where it is legal to smoke!!! Perhaps I’ll perfect my baking and tincture making too!
Say hello if you’re down to meet up … I’ll be looking for some odd-jobs and a little work in Denver! And I’m always down to smoke a bowl!
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I’m working on a rough draft of my life and travels for the next 12 months. This is rare for me … I usually don’t plan more than 24 hours in advance! What is going on in the next year that I can’t miss?!
Thanks for all the nice thoughts and notes. You are all amazing rays of light and love! The sun came out today, and while I’m not magically great just yet … I feel heard, understood, and loved. Infinite good-vibes to you!
Portrait of an INFP
The Idealist
As an INFP, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value system. Your secondary mode is external, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.
INFPs, more than other iNtuitive Feeling types, are focused on making the world a better place for people. Their primary goal is to find out their meaning in life. What is their purpose? How can they best serve humanity in their lives? They are idealists and perfectionists, who drive themselves hard in their quest for achieving the goals they have identified for themselves
INFPs are highly intuitive about people. They rely heavily on their intuitions to guide them, and use their discoveries to constantly search for value in life. They are on a continuous mission to find the truth and meaning underlying things. Every encounter and every piece of knowledge gained gets sifted through the INFP’s value system, and is evaluated to see if it has any potential to help the INFP define or refine their own path in life. The goal at the end of the path is always the same - the INFP is driven to help people and make the world a better place.
Generally thoughtful and considerate, INFPs are good listeners and put people at ease. Although they may be reserved in expressing emotion, they have a very deep well of caring and are genuinely interested in understanding people. This sincerity is sensed by others, making the INFP a valued friend and confidante. An INFP can be quite warm with people he or she knows well.
INFPs do not like conflict, and go to great lengths to avoid it. If they must face it, they will always approach it from the perspective of their feelings. In conflict situations, INFPs place little importance on who is right and who is wrong. They focus on the way that the conflict makes them feel, and indeed don’t really care whether or not they’re right. They don’t want to feel badly. This trait sometimes makes them appear irrational and illogical in conflict situations. On the other hand, INFPs make very good mediators, and are typically good at solving other people’s conflicts, because they intuitively understand people’s perspectives and feelings, and genuinely want to help them.
INFPs are flexible and laid-back, until one of their values is violated. In the face of their value system being threatened, INFPs can become aggressive defenders, fighting passionately for their cause. When an INFP has adopted a project or job which they’re interested in, it usually becomes a “cause” for them. Although they are not detail-oriented individuals, they will cover every possible detail with determination and vigor when working for their “cause”.
When it comes to the mundane details of life maintenance, INFPs are typically completely unaware of such things. They might go for long periods without noticing a stain on the carpet, but carefully and meticulously brush a speck of dust off of their project booklet.
INFPs do not like to deal with hard facts and logic. Their focus on their feelings and the Human Condition makes it difficult for them to deal with impersonal judgment. They don’t understand or believe in the validity of impersonal judgment, which makes them naturally rather ineffective at using it. Most INFPs will avoid impersonal analysis, although some have developed this ability and are able to be quite logical. Under stress, it’s not uncommon for INFPs to mis-use hard logic in the heat of anger, throwing out fact after (often inaccurate) fact in an emotional outburst.
INFPs have very high standards and are perfectionists. Consequently, they are usually hard on themselves, and don’t give themselves enough credit. INFPs may have problems working on a project in a group, because their standards are likely to be higher than other members’ of the group. In group situations, they may have a “control” problem. The INFP needs to work on balancing their high ideals with the requirements of every day living. Without resolving this conflict, they will never be happy with themselves, and they may become confused and paralyzed about what to do with their lives.
INFPs are usually talented writers. They may be awkard and uncomfortable with expressing themselves verbally, but have a wonderful ability to define and express what they’re feeling on paper. INFPs also appear frequently in social service professions, such as counselling or teaching. They are at their best in situations where they’re working towards the public good, and in which they don’t need to use hard logic.
INFPs who function in their well-developed sides can accomplish great and wonderful things, which they will rarely give themselves credit for. Some of the great, humanistic catalysts in the world have been INFPs.