She is spiritual. She understands that there are things we will never understand, and she can appreciate other’s spiritual journeys. She gets excited for mushroom season, and full moon parties, and probably knows all sorts of useful trivia about the best pagan celebrations … but she can also keep in touch with family that might have a narrower view of spirituality.
She is giving. She would give away our last bit of food for a child, or maybe even a hungry dog. She also knows when she needs rest. She can say no, if no is the truth. She avoids over-extending herself.
She loves children and animals and nature. Maybe we would have children together, but even if we did not, kids and animals and nature would always be a big part of our life together.
She is confident. Confident in her own being, her skills, her looks, her options in life. She knows she can have anything in the world that she wants, but she wants me. She can motivate and inspire a group toward a greater common goal - whether that is planning a pot-luck with friends, or building a community garden.
She believes in the ideas of sustainability and community.
She is sexual. So many girls I’ve met are afraid to get kinky. Whatever happened to free-loving hippies! I like being passionate, even in public sometimes … I’d love to go to naked protests. I hope someday we welcome guests into our bed, and perhaps we even have occasional lovers on the side, but we are both 100% sure we are together and we work hard to make sure each other feels loved and appreciated. She is confident to ask for what she wants sexually, and is interested in pleasing me as well. She’d probably be turned-on to know that others were watching our passion for each other! I’m pretty sure she will either be very experienced with guys, or a virgin. I know that is extreme, but it makes sense. I’ll be delighted either way when I find her!
She is probably similar in build to me … thin by American standards; normal and healthy by the rest of the worlds standards. Skin color and hair color I’m not so picky about … I do have a soft spot for long hair and dreads. Part of the reason I love dreads is that it is my fantasy to find a girl who has also given up everything to find the real deal … Maybe tats, maybe not. An amazing smile for sure … A creative dresser … probably she makes most of her own clothes, or friends have made them for her. She prefers a bike over a car.
She’d be willing to travel with me often. And we’d likely meet with nothing, and travel until we find a place to build or join an open-minded loving, sharing and active community. Right now, my dream is to start an organic garden, maybe in the city, maybe in the country, or maybe we’d split our time between both. It is possible that she or I already have some ideas in mind, but we’d work it out until we were both 100% happy.
She is probably voluntarily poor - and would be willing to be that way forever if the choice was between being rich or being in love. We would inspire each other to be more creative and I’m pretty certain we will eat amazing food and live in a breath-taking one-of-a-kind home all of our days. She would not nag, but would not hesitate to let me know if I was not living up to my potential. She knows I can quit smoking and drinking Coke.
She would read out loud to me. And I’d read to her. We’d cook amazing, healthy food together daily. She would write me notes and hide them in random places. She may already be a musician … she probably has the sweetest voice I’ve ever heard. Maybe we’ll learn to play music together.
She is probably slightly more extroverted than me - but I’m not a quiet shy background guy - she is just probably slightly louder and more boisterous than me. Others know her genuine laugh, and it always lightens the mood.
She has close girlfriends and guyfriends. People who mean the world to her, and who’s counsel she seeks when making important decisions.
She is not a big TV or pop culture addict. She could enjoy a good movie now and then, but she is definitely not addicted to America’s Next Top Model or Jersey Shore.
Most of all, she is patient. She knows that as she stands with me, and starts to dream together with me, we can together do anything, and go anywhere!